Have You Decided To Be Free?

A short while ago I was running an AAMET EFT Level 1 training in Newcastle and one of the participants asked me a question I’ve never been asked before.

She said that although she had some experience with EFT and had used it on and off for a while she found it difficult to motivate herself to use it consistently.

“How do you motivate yourself to use EFT regularly?”

After a moment’s thought my answer was:

“You need to decide to be free”

I think this is a fundamental shift in attitude that is required for someone to take the many self-help tools and techniques that are available and make use of them.

I suspect that many people read books, attend workshops or trainings and are wow-ed by the results they get but quickly forget to use the techniques they have learned and slip back into their uncomfortable (but familiar) way of life.

If you want to get the best you can from your technique of choice: meditation, EFT, NLP, (insert your favourite three-letter acronym here) then you need to make a decision that you have had enough of things as they are and want to have a different experience of life. I think you have to make this commitment at some level to get long-term benefit from these processes. Otherwise you will just be a dabbler, trying this book, that workshop, each new technique and miracle cure that comes along. To get the benefits of the technique you need to do the work.

“… Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”

– W. H. Murray in The Scottish Himalaya Expedition

The moment you decide you want to be free of your old reactions and responses I think your relationship to your techniques of choice changes, from looking for something that will miraculously fix you, to something you can use to change your experience of life.

This kind of decision takes care of questions of motivation because the response to our unhelpful reactions and responses shifts from ‘Can I be bothered to work on this?’ or ‘Have I got time to change this?’ to ‘Why on earth would I want to keep this old response?’ and ‘What can I do to change this?’. Making the change after that may be an effort but it isn’t a chore.

So, have you decided to be free?

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Andy Hunt

About Andy Hunt

I'm a Master Practitioner and Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), and also a Practitioner and Trainer of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I've been practising NLP since 2000 and EFT for 2004.

2 thoughts on “Have You Decided To Be Free?

  1. Robert Fordham

    Hi! I thought the quote above was from Goethe (though I’m a big fan of Bill Murray’s mountaineering writing too). Maybe this is like Nelson Mandela being attributed to the quote from Maryanne Williamson that he used his inaugural address.

    Maybe it just doesn’t matter! The topic certainly does!

    This is a simple, but important idea, Andy. I certainly found in my own life and in working with clients that there are all sorts of opportunities to stay the same, not to make positive changes. And it’s not just passivity and drifting from modality to modality. We often have a pretty active role in self sabotage too. Looking back, I can see lots of times in my life when I plateaued, or cycled through the same ‘stuff’ for a while before acknowledging what was going on and making a forward move.

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    1. Andy Hunt

      The full quote usually has the two lines allegedly from Goethe. It out to be a very loose translation indeed and there has been quite a bit of commentary about it if you go looking for it.

      I love your line ‘all sorts of possibilities to stay the same’. (I’ll attribute the quote correctly if I use it 🙂 and I agree there are endless possibilities for self sabotage in this issue. It’s amazing any of us make any progress at all.

      I think you do need to make a decision to work with your stuff or it’s much to easy to drift, or even sail away in the opposite direction.

      Thanks for the really stimulating comment.

      Reply

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