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Presentation: Discovering Our Secret Selves

We are all multi-layered and bring all of our selves into every relationship, whether we mean to or not!

We all have secret or hidden parts of our personalities representing many different aspects of ourselves, some of which we know and choose to keep secret from other people, others keep themselves hidden for much of the time, even from us. All of these hidden and secret selves are positive aspects of us; they exist for good reason.

Most of us are familiar with our Future or Ideal Self for example, whether as an ally inspiring us to stretch towards achieving our goals or a “monkey on our back” cajoling that we never will. And most of us will be aware of other aspects of ourselves who perhaps we’re used to keeping hidden for fear of exposing our vulnerability, or perhaps for their ability to hurt others – we call these “triggered selves”.

If we can bring all of our selves intentionally and positively into our daily repertoire, then we increase the depth of our self-awareness and by extension, the depth of our relationships with those around us. It’s usually in relationship with others that our secret, hidden and triggered selves come to light – sometimes helpfully and sometimes less so.

In this session you will be invited to find the courage to meet your secret selves face to face through a guided visualisation in order to welcome and appreciate them, learn from them, integrate their wisdom and knowledge about you, and move forward with a whole team of allies inside.