Category Archives: Psychology

Presentation: The Listening Circle

Image courtesy of Ky

To really listen to another human being is an art.

An art that we can all learn.

Whatever is on your mind or in your heart, the circle wants to hear it.

We are built to take in each other’s experiences, to bear witness to one another. To learn, grow and deepen our connections with self and others, as a result.

My name is Tahira Aslam and I am a great advocate for deep listening in community, in circle.

I believe in the power of respectful and reflective listening, to connect more deeply with ourselves, to give our hearts a voice, to give the inner voice an opportunity to be heard and expressed out loud, to unearth our own answers, to empower us as individuals, through the process of connecting more deeply with others.

“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” David W.Augsburger.

This is a space for you, to share anything you wish. Perhaps reflect on the day you have experienced so far, perhaps how you feel about being heard and witnessed by a group of people, perhaps a creative idea wishes to be shared. The space is an open one, for you to express whatever wishes to be said in the moment.

To support a safe and well-held container for listening, participants are asked: to be gentle with yourself and others, to offer quiet and respectful listening when another is speaking and sharing their wisdom, to take responsibility for your needs and wishes and to speak honestly.

All that is shared in the circle remains in the circle, when it comes to a close. Outside of circle, I will not gossip about you.

Whatever profession you choose to enter, or whatever life path you take, the need for respectful and reflective listening is to be found everywhere.

Presentation: A Guided Imagery Of Psychosynthesis

Guided ImageryAt this workshop Harry will give a One Minute introduction to Psychosynthesis.

You will then go on one of Roberto Assagioli journeys guided by Harry followed by an explanation of the symbolic elements of your own journey.

You will then go on another journey created by Harry for this workshop, followed by an exploration of what is actually happening and how you can use it to your benefit.

As usual expect to have great fun and a unique learning experience.

Presentation: Drawing Out The Child In You

Child drawingThis presentation is all about exploring your personality through simple drawing and writing exercises.

Using Star-Wave Drawing, a simple technique developed by an educational psychologist and family therapist you can draw out the child in you and explore what you learn through the lens of Transactional Analysis (a social psychology exploring relationship interactions).

By the end of the session you will know more about why daily or long term relationships work the way they do.

If you are interested in learning more about yourself and your relationships then all you will need to do is bring along your favourite pen.

No artistic ability is required.

Presentation: Introduction to Mindset Skills

MindsetLearn the principles behind mindset skills and some of the activities and techniques we can apply in simple content-free ways to remove blocks, anxieties and begin to develop more positivity and success.

The underlying theme is based on Carol Dweck’s GROWTH MINDSET concept and a possibility frame.

Join me to begin ‘growing your brain’ and let your thoughts and feelings take you in the right direction in order to help create more success and make you healthier, wealthier and wise.

Discover more about my seven mindset principles by pasting this url into your browser and watching a short video: http://mindsetpreneur.com/practitioner

As with all my workshops, they are fun, they have a small element of theory, and loaded with self-applicable tools.’

Presentation: Defusing Troublesome Thoughts With ACT

DefusionAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) contends that there are opportunities for purpose and meaning even in the midst of intense pain or suffering.

The goal of ACT is not to merely eliminate suffering, but to find a way to use one’s own pain and suffering to grow and find meaning.

When we are in a state of cognitive fusion we are stuck to our thoughts. It is almost as if we cannot separate ourselves from our thoughts. In a state of cognitive fusion, thinking completely dominates our behaviour. We think or believe that something is true and we act as if it is true.

Defusion involves “learning to step back and separate or detach from our thoughts, images and memories”. When we choose to consciously disentangle ourselves from the grip of our internal cognitive drama, we are practicing mindfulness.

When we are defused from our cognitive processes, we begin to see them for what they are: words or pictures. In this state of defusion we allow ourselves to mindfully observe our internal processes without relinquishing control to them, we notice them, choose not to pass judgement on them, accept them and let them go.

This presentation will give an insight into part of ACT therapy through practical experience, meaning you will understand this on a level personal to you.

Presentation: A Secret Of Happiness

HappinessI don’t want to give too much away about the session, but its a unique opportunity to experience the findings of some American research and will be ideal for those who have the courage to savour an unforgettable experience and discover a Secret of Happiness.

Useful for anyone interested in personal development, the here and now, and really living.

All participants must bring a pen, an open mind, a willingness to develop and a mobile phone.

I will supply letter paper, compassion and enthusiasm 🙂

Presentation: Changing Your Luck by Changing the Stories You Tell

Make your own luckDo you feel dogged by bad luck?

Would you like to get luckier?

Do you seem to meet all the wrong people? Or the right ones at the wrong time?

You don’t need to buy lucky charms. There is scientific research that provides practical tips on how to improve your odds and have an easier life. I use this information to help people improve their relationships and make life easier for themselves.

In this talk, I will explain some of the findings and illustrate the lessons they teach us. I’ll give guidance on how to change your luck by changing the stories you tell yourself and others.

As a mediator and conflict coach, I have seen the benefits of this approach again and again.

Presentation: The Listening Circle

Image courtesy of Ky

To really listen to another human being is an art.

An art that we can all learn.

Whatever is on your mind or in your heart, the circle wants to hear it.

We are built to take in each other’s experiences, to bear witness to one another. To learn, grow and deepen our connections with self and others, as a result.

My name is Tahira Aslam and I am a great advocate for deep listening in community, in circle.

I believe in the power of respectful and reflective listening, to connect more deeply with ourselves, to give our hearts a voice, to give the inner voice an opportunity to be heard and expressed out loud, to unearth our own answers, to empower us as individuals, through the process of connecting more deeply with others.

“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” David W.Augsburger.

Saturday 21st October 2017 is World Listening Day, and I would like to use my workshop time, to offer an experiential listening circle.

This is a space for you, to share anything you wish. Perhaps reflect on the day you have experienced so far, perhaps how you feel about being heard and witnessed by a group of people, perhaps a creative idea wishes to be shared. The space is an open one, for you to express whatever wishes to be said in the moment.

To support a safe and well-held container for listening, participants are asked: to be gentle with yourself and others, to offer quiet and respectful listening when another is speaking and sharing their wisdom, to take responsibility for your needs and wishes and to speak honestly.

All that is shared in the circle remains in the circle, when it comes to a close. Outside of circle, I will not gossip about you.

Whatever profession you choose to enter, or whatever life path you take, the need for respectful and reflective listening is to be found everywhere.

Presentation: Introducing Rising Strong

Image courtesy of BK

Rising Strong is a strategy and model for failing and getting back up again, based on the research of Dr Brene Brown.

The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall.

Rising Strong is a book about what it takes to get back up and how owning our stories of disappointment, failure, and heartbreak gives us the power to write a daring new ending.

Struggle can be our greatest call to courage and Rising Strong, our clearest path to deeper meaning, wisdom and hope.

How well do you cope with failing? With criticism? With feeling inadequate? What’s your relationship with feeling your feelings? With courage?

Come and explore the Rising Strong model and approach to start discovering where you ‘get hooked’ by emotion and how to rumble with some of the toughest stories you are telling about some of the circumstances, events or people in your work or life.

This is an introductory session – no experience necessary – just bring an open mind and heart and a willingness to rumble with your thoughts, feelings and behaviours!

Presentation: Conflict And Unwanted Change

Punch and Judy

Image courtesy of Alex Brown

Evolution hardwired us to react to change and conflict with the fight, flight or freeze response.

But the world has moved on, and this instinctive response often ends up making the situation worse.

The physical dangers and stresses of the past have morphed into more intellectual and emotional challenges which require brain not brawn.

Yet for most of us, just when we really, really need to get it right, the primitive response kicks in, switches off our brain and pours in the steroids.

Some people hide or deny emotion, but this ends up in an explosion, corrosive behaviour as it leaks out or  ill health when turned inwards.

The good news is that you can manage your reaction to conflict and change and handle physical, intellectual and emotional challenges more appropriately.

In this session, Nancy will help you recognise the signs of impeding hijack and give you some tips on how to acknowledge and handle your own emotions. You’ll learn some ideas of how to support yourself and relationships through periods of change and conflict.

Sailors can’t control the wind, but skillful use of the sails helps bring them safely home. Just like them, we can’t completely control our circumstances, but can do much to create a positive outcome.