Category Archives: Psychology

Presentation: The Listening Circle

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To really listen to another human being is an art.

An art that we can all learn.

Whatever is on your mind or in your heart, the circle wants to hear it.

We are built to take in each other’s experiences, to bear witness to one another. To learn, grow and deepen our connections with self and others, as a result.

My name is Tahira Aslam and I am a great advocate for deep listening in community, in circle.

I believe in the power of respectful and reflective listening, to connect more deeply with ourselves, to give our hearts a voice, to give the inner voice an opportunity to be heard and expressed out loud, to unearth our own answers, to empower us as individuals, through the process of connecting more deeply with others.

“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.” David W.Augsburger.

Saturday 21st October 2017 is World Listening Day, and I would like to use my workshop time, to offer an experiential listening circle.

This is a space for you, to share anything you wish. Perhaps reflect on the day you have experienced so far, perhaps how you feel about being heard and witnessed by a group of people, perhaps a creative idea wishes to be shared. The space is an open one, for you to express whatever wishes to be said in the moment.

To support a safe and well-held container for listening, participants are asked: to be gentle with yourself and others, to offer quiet and respectful listening when another is speaking and sharing their wisdom, to take responsibility for your needs and wishes and to speak honestly.

All that is shared in the circle remains in the circle, when it comes to a close. Outside of circle, I will not gossip about you.

Whatever profession you choose to enter, or whatever life path you take, the need for respectful and reflective listening is to be found everywhere.

Presentation: Introducing Rising Strong

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Rising Strong is a strategy and model for failing and getting back up again, based on the research of Dr Brene Brown.

The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall.

Rising Strong is a book about what it takes to get back up and how owning our stories of disappointment, failure, and heartbreak gives us the power to write a daring new ending.

Struggle can be our greatest call to courage and Rising Strong, our clearest path to deeper meaning, wisdom and hope.

How well do you cope with failing? With criticism? With feeling inadequate? What’s your relationship with feeling your feelings? With courage?

Come and explore the Rising Strong model and approach to start discovering where you ‘get hooked’ by emotion and how to rumble with some of the toughest stories you are telling about some of the circumstances, events or people in your work or life.

This is an introductory session – no experience necessary – just bring an open mind and heart and a willingness to rumble with your thoughts, feelings and behaviours!

Presentation: Conflict And Unwanted Change

Punch and Judy

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Evolution hardwired us to react to change and conflict with the fight, flight or freeze response.

But the world has moved on, and this instinctive response often ends up making the situation worse.

The physical dangers and stresses of the past have morphed into more intellectual and emotional challenges which require brain not brawn.

Yet for most of us, just when we really, really need to get it right, the primitive response kicks in, switches off our brain and pours in the steroids.

Some people hide or deny emotion, but this ends up in an explosion, corrosive behaviour as it leaks out or  ill health when turned inwards.

The good news is that you can manage your reaction to conflict and change and handle physical, intellectual and emotional challenges more appropriately.

In this session, Nancy will help you recognise the signs of impeding hijack and give you some tips on how to acknowledge and handle your own emotions. You’ll learn some ideas of how to support yourself and relationships through periods of change and conflict.

Sailors can’t control the wind, but skillful use of the sails helps bring them safely home. Just like them, we can’t completely control our circumstances, but can do much to create a positive outcome.

Presentation: How To Show Up More Bravely In The Arenas Of Your Life


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This presentation is based on the work of Dr. Brené Brown Ph.D. LMSW, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work., who has spent the past twelve years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.

She is the author of two #1 New York Times bestsellers; Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2012), and The Gifts of Imperfection (2010).

The ‘arena’ is a metaphor for areas of our lives where we want to show up more bravely, and be seen, even if the outcome is uncertain. Our arenas could be a difficult conversation, going for a new job, facing bad news, a relationship. When our hand is on the door of the arena, what stops us going in? What has us stay small and play safe?

Come and explore how you ‘do’ vulnerability (defined as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure) when it really counts, and what holds you back when you really want to move forward.

I’ll be asking you to choose an area of your life you want to show up and be seen more bravely in, and we’ll explore what some of the inner and outer critical voices are in your arena, and how you can nurture a more empathic support section and kinder inner voice to cheer you on.

Yes, it can be challenging facing our inner voices of ‘not good enough’ or ‘not ready’, but I believe it’s worth understanding how and why we may be holding ourselves back on an area of life we’re ready to grow in! It’s ok to be brave and afraid at the exact same time.

No previous experience is needed.

Presentation: Bringing Out The SPARK In Kids

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Image courtesy of dbrekke

Schools teach our Kids their ABC’s and 123’s yet they miss something so vital to our Kids wellbeing and I am sure you are seeing the reports or have heard stories about how the youth of today seem to be under so much extra pressure than we had when we were young.

The one thing they do not “teach” though is how our Kids think about themselves, what is possible for them to achieve in their lives. They are not teaching how their mind works and how it can be used to empower Kids and give them the tools to develop positive self esteem, overcome mistakes, handle peer pressure to be self responsible while they move through life with the right mindset.

Myself and Graham J Turner will be holding this presentation to bring out the SPARK inside every kid.

S- speaking to the
P – promise
A – ability and
R – resilience inside
K – kids.

We will be using the program to discuss the thought cycle, to demonstrate how the way we think creates our perceptions and then in turn our experience.

We will be exploring the various ways the Kids can be influenced and held back in life and how to change them.

Understanding separate realities and demonstrating that acceptance of different thoughts about the same problem shows new ways to find possible solutions.

We look forward to sharing this and so much more in this program with you very soon.

Presentation: Your Personal Nonsense Detector

Nonsense detector

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Do you like maps?

I do. I like the way how they tell what to expect. When finding new places, it feels good to have a map in my bag.

And maps don’t lie, or do they?

The map of our world is weaved by the mind using language, but “the map is not the territory”.

The symbol for the Eiffel tower on a map is not identical with a monumental structure, or with my personal experiencing of a knee wobbling climb and amazing scenery.

Tourist maps don’t tend to represent anyone’s reality.

But we do tend to trust on our internal maps and can easily end up following unchecked and unhelpful map in our model of the world.

That is when a good Personal Nonsense Detector can help!

There are some specific (and common) language structures that if become a thought pattern, can distort our reality and have limiting effects on us. For example, does “I’m always like this”, “I should try harder” or “I know what they think of me” sound familiar?

Tuning your Personal Nonsense Detector to be ready to give a sounding alarm, can help us to challenge our unhelpful inner chatter by using specific responses.

It is a simple way to increase a positive inner chatter and look after our emotional wellbeing and resilience.

This is an experiential workshop where you can fine-tune your “personal nonsense detector” in a light-hearted atmosphere and have an opportunity to gently challenge some of your thought patterns.

There is no need to know anything about NLP or Meta-Models in order to join this workshop

Presentation: Sports Psychology For Your Goals

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Image courtesy of Steven Pisano

Will 2016 be your year for a better body, efficient working or whatever else you desire?

If you’ve thought about improving your eating habits, doing some exercise or organising your paperwork for a while, this could be the time you actually crack it.

Sporting success is partly physical hard work but in the end usually depends on the mental side. I’ll share with you some tools from the world of sports psychology.

In this practical session you’ll have the chance to work through your own goal and apply the techniques.

Jackie works in business and nutrition coaching. She competed in archery at international level for 21 years and was British Field Archery Champion 6 times. Now she devotes her time to helping people improve their lives.

Presentation: Keeping You Young At Heart

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Image courtesy of Viola Ng

This workshop is about steps to staying younger, sharper and happier.

You might have unwittingly come into possession of a grumpy ‘Old Brain.’

Surprisingly, research has shown that this can start to creep up on you from your early twenties.

So we are going to start the workshop with the brain age test.  Don’t panic! The recipe for remaining youthful is simple and fun.

Fun recalibrating your beliefs and values browser just in case you are hanging on to out-of-date assumptions and resisting change. Your brain age might be getting older than your birthday and body age!

But if you think youthful thoughts you remain forever young!  Think young and bright ideas keep coming.

Presentation: An Introduction To DeNA Light Up

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Image courtesy of Olga Resnick

DeNA Light-Up is a structured methodology to help individuals, regardless of their previous experience, reconnect with who they really are.

It works for everybody from cynical corporate types to lifetime “seekers”. You don’t have to believe anything … just be. Founder Mel Carnegie calls DeNA Light-Up “Life changing magic”.

In this workshop Martyn will explain its origins & applications and invite participants to begin their journey of re-connection and attendees with leave the workshop with a usable tool to instantly change their state.

Presentation: Tempering The Must

Image courtesy of David Goehring

Image courtesy of David Goehring

Irrational beliefs and rigid expectations we have are actually ‘musts’ we impose on ourselves, which are the very things that bring us down or hold us back. Releasing ‘musts’ from our lives releases the intensity of those negative self-defeating and irrational beliefs.

This workshop examines the work of Sydney Banks and Albert Ellis – updated by Jorgen Rasmussen. During this humour-filled and thought-provoking workshop we set out to:

  • Identity situations and behaviours that lead to the creation of ‘musts’.
  • Recognise the sensations and feelings that ‘musts’ create.
  • Realise simple tools that dilute ‘musts’ into more calming language.

This workshop will suit will assist those working in a care and support role. No prior experience is necessary.

This workshop is co-presented by  Julie Brown and John Clark